Wednesday, August 25, 2010

爬山的一些小领悟

本来写到一半的,然后无意读到了别人写的另一篇类似的,他也写得更好。那我就不用写了。学到的东西,一定得尽量牢记心中:-

From Zen Habits:-

How to Summit Life’s Everyday Mountains

“The man who moves a mountain begins by carrying away small stones.” ~Confucius

Editor’s note: This is a guest post from Scott Dinsmore of ReadingForYourSuccess.

How can a mountain better prepare us for life? At over 14,000 feet, there’s more to learn than I would have thought.

Last week I sat on top of Mt. Shasta, a 14,179 foot mountain in Northern California. It was my first real summit and I was proud. Getting there took me through two days of snow, ice and below-freezing camping conditions, using crampons, an ice axe, and more layers than I thought I owned.

As I climbed, and especially on my way down, I began to realize the lessons required to reach the top and make it back down safely. As it turns out, the most important rules are just as relevant in the snow as they are in conquering our everyday challenges.
When was the last time you reached a mountain summit, whether outdoors or in life?

We face our own mountains everyday. Some small. Some big. There’s always a summit we want to reach. Maybe it’s running those few miles before work, making that intimidating sales call, or running your business. Goals, no matter the size, require a strategy for success.

A cold tall mountain reinforced an approach that can convert life’s everyday challenges into gratifying accomplishments.
A Guide to Reaching Life’s Summits:

Pack light. I wish I took this more seriously. Every unnecessary piece of gear complicates things and detracts from the experience. Aside from the bare necessities, things do not make life better. They often cause more stress and keep you from what’s most important. The lighter your pack the better. Life is too short to be burdened with excessive possessions, emotional baggage or regrets. Positive thoughts, relationships and experiences weigh nothing at all. Pile them on and leave the rest behind. They’ll lift you to the top.

Take one step at a time. Any major accomplishment can be broken down into a series of single steps. My pattern for the mountain was 15 steps up, 15 breaths of rest. I did that for 7 hours. If I would have only focused on the very top, frustration would have overcome me. If your summit is too intimidating, break it into smaller steps. Focus on those one by one. Eventually one step will be the one that puts you on top.

Don’t go at it alone. When climbing, a partner is a must. For safety, support, camaraderie, motivation and simply to share the journey. You’d be silly (and putting yourself in great danger) to go up alone. Life is meant to be experienced with others. It makes the valleys shallower and the peaks higher. Relationships magnify experiences and help you do things that prove impossible alone. Don’t leave home without your support team.

Listen to the experts. Halfway up, a passing guide told us if we couldn’t get to the top by 12:30 at the latest, then to turn back. Chances of late day thunderstorms were too great. As amateurs we would have had no idea. While we all ought to experience our own paths, it’s foolish not to learn from and observe the guidance of experts. Choose your life models wisely and keep them close by on your journey.

Slow down. As Yvon Chouinard of Patagonia says, “It’s about how you got there. Not what you’ve accomplished.” Despite what colleagues and competitors may tell you, there is no rush. Rushing on the mountain risks slipping, not acclimating to thinning air, exhaustion and possibly death. In life the biggest risk is that you miss the wonders of everyday experiences in your pursuit to the top. The top is secondary to the process.

Look back and take in the view. There’s never any guarantee that you’ll get to the top, but you always have the ability to stop, take in a deep breath, smile and enjoy the view-whether it’s miles of wilderness or two feet of fog. It’s all wonderful. Every moment of life is a new view to appreciate.

Save some energy for the trip down. We thought the summit was “just over that peak” half a dozen times before it actually was. Conserve energy. Things will inevitably take longer than expected. Don’t be discouraged. Budget your capital, energy and drive appropriately. Rarely is anything in life an all out sprint. Treat it like a marathon. You may need your reserves when you least expect it.

Getting to the top is optional. Getting down is mandatory. These are Ed Viesturs’ famous words; the first U.S. man to summit all 14 peaks above 8,000 meters with no bottled oxygen. The summit will be there tomorrow and likely so will yours. If more planning, a stronger team or more support is required, then save the summit for a time when the payout is safer and more probable. If you are outmatched, know when to turn back, only to return stronger and more savvy tomorrow. Stay objective and don’t let short-term excitement get in the way of long-term fulfillment.

Failure is a part of the process. If we would have started our climb the week before, conditions would have been too grave to make it. Be ok with not reaching the summit every time. Falling short is inevitable. You will never learn more than from your failures…at anything. Embrace them.

A daunting summit is nothing more than a challenge. A challenge is simply an opportunity in disguise. You won’t summit every one you come across, but you will become a better person with each attempt.

There will always be another mountain. You are not meant to conquer them all. Past summits are simply preparing you for the next. With the right strategy, you’ll put the top within reach. When your summit arrives, you will be ready.

“It is not the mountains we conquer but ourselves.” ~Sir Edmund Hillary

Monday, August 23, 2010

我是没爱心还是没同情心?

礼拜六下午。医生,然后急诊室。
前后五个多小时。
就是等。
没人死,也没人严重受伤。
就只是一个没料到的突发事件。
就是一个女朋友应该做的事。

不过还真等到我有些不耐烦。
惭愧,不过是。
我有些不适,腰酸背痛。
也说不得,又不是比赛谁比较惨。
我用尽了我所有的本事和力气来掩饰我的不耐烦。
不过我猜我还不是做得很好。

回家时,反反复复我自问:
怎么就这样没爱心,同情心,和耐心?
没有借口。
可能就是我比较自私的自我吧。

Sandy 说过:empathy is not natural to you.
还真是。这也不能当借口。
不过凭良心说,我真的尽力了。
I can only hope I get better at this.

Wednesday, August 11, 2010

上山的前一晚

In darkness. Siting in darkness on top of a bunk bed. Truth is this is probably my first time on the top level of the bunk bed. And strangely I dun hate it. Its basic but not uncomfortable. Tomorrow the climb starts to the 3/4 point. Then it gets interesting with a 2am climb to the submit for sunrise.

Life is strange. Would I have wanted to do a KK climb when I was in my 20s? The truth is it has never crossed my mind then. But now in my 30s, I find myself wanting to do a lot more other things. Someone asked me why. I said it is my on 30-to-do list. Along with viewing northern lights, staying in the ice hotel, a road trip from Seattle to Las Vegas, silk road, trek to Everest base camp. I'm sure the list will get longer as times passes.

I looked up from the HQ base towards KK today. And I saw the peak. I cannot imagine myself making my way all to the peak. But I know I will try. I hope I will continue accomplishing the things I cannot imagine myself doing.


怎样才算是追寻那我希望成为未来的自己?

我真的,还没做到最好的自己。

Monday, August 09, 2010

Why am I so angry?

Here I am. Tossing in bed trying to sleep for an early ride to the airport tomorrow morning and I cannot sleep. I know why I cannot sleep. I am positively brimming with anger. I can feel the anger boiling beneath my body. I'm not sure if it would turn into utter irrational rage. I'm trying to control but I can feel my shallow breathing. It is not helping.

What am I so angry about? I can point out to the external world. But it all leads back to one thing. I dislike this position I have landed myself in now. Whatever this 'nice', 'wealthy', 'attached', 'family relations' position this is.

我不想怨天。Whatever cards are dealt, I'll play them. I am just angry with myself for dealing so badly with them. With all the cards in all areas.

So why am I so angry? Mostly because I am angry with myself. I should have been better. But I am not.

And as a matter of self consolation, a line from the musical last night : 幸福是知道你还有时间。

I'm just hope I'll buy into that statement tomorrow when i wake up.




有时,不完美,不过够了

昨天看了《雨季》。
不是我看过最好的。
我很清楚我为什么去看。

本地华语音乐剧 ...
不是常有 ...
TOY 肥料厂的节目 ..
我往往会看 ...
还有陈洁仪

陈洁仪
陈洁仪

第一段,我有点失望。
甚至闷。
中场后的第二段 ...
陈洁仪 ...
独唱五分钟《我终于看到》 ...
那一刹那 ...
值回票价了。

她那一段的完美 ...
一切都完美了。
够了,我也甘愿。

《雨季》
好看吗?值得吗?
I say, yes.
For Kit Chan's vocals.
Definitely.

Monday, August 02, 2010

我有一个问题

do you fall in love with a person, or do you fall in love with the way he makes you feel?

有答案吗?
需要解答吗?